The first manifestations of sexual motions may be
noticed very early. Before sexual maturity is achieved (at the age of 11-13
with girls and at 12- 14 with boys), the gender life is presented in what may
be called the indifferent disposition. Though the physical organs are not
developed yet, the body already has a certain "erogenous" character
and may experience sexual excitement. The genital zone plays the most important
part in the process of sexual ripening. It is the zone where the sexual organs
are located. There may also be a danger of a premature development of sexual
psychology. It happens sometimes that children 9 years
old look for pornographic pictures and watch adults’ behavior with an unhealthy
curiosity.
In the following years the sexual development of
boys is more intensive, capturing body and soul. The development of the sexual
sphere advances with such a speed that the spiritual outlook of a teenager can
change entirely. Here we see a split of consciousness into two poles.
On the one side there is sexuality that embraces
the bodily side of sex, and the psychic changes connected with it. On the other
pole is the Eros, that is, looking for love that brings the teen’s
psychology in motion. At this period the entire soul
lights up with poetic dreams about a loved one. Eros and sexuality present
themselves equally as the expression of sex in a human being, but their
splitting, and sometimes their reciprocal repulsion, clearly reveals the notion
of sex as a spiritual-bodily energy. Sexuality in man is like fire that is
burning deep inside — in sexual motion as well as in the most
minute manifestations of Eros. It is important to consider that these
two different expressions of gender are of the one and the same source. Here we
see an example of the wholeness of our nature: the need for sexual union and a
communion of love inevitably co-exist in man. That is why even the most
perverted people, even those that have entirely sunk into fornication, every
now and then experience a tormenting longing for love.
Thus, the single notion of sex during the time
when young men are maturing is polarized, and there emerges a split between
sexuality and Eros. We are going to consider this matter more thoroughly now.
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